A Commendation... Nay, A Tribute to the Kvetch!

Gripe, gripe, gripe... is that all I know how to do in this blog? "Apparently, this is all he knows how to do." Well, let me tell you, it's better to gripe and get it out then hold it against people and not forgive them for it. As if I were pressing this on someone, but more-so on the fact that I apparently don't understand a great many things... so these few thoughts are listed, with what I would think I do know.

...Complimenting...

Now, I know there's a thing about putting a person on a pedestal, but there's also the a minute case where you can compliment someone and it's as if they just shrug it off, due to the lack of thought & consideration that you put into it. Or, because it's actually been said so much that it doesn't mean anything to the person you're complimenting.

These being the examples...
Complimenting someone on an action that is common place and easily available to learn and use.

This has occurred many times over; for example... Someone (that does not have amnesia or Alzheimer's) coming by your house and saying, "My... your yard is the best looking yard I have ever seen." Then, that same person comes by again, later in the day repeating that same sequence of words... again and again, day after day. Sure, the yard looks great, and spectators might form when you are working in the yard, but to automatically, and ignorantly, compliment without wit or sense seems like empty words. Finding the time to actually say what you mean, without sounding flagrant or obtuse, isn't that hard. Devising a knowledgeable nuance and effectively articulating it is more flattering than a perpetually ordinary preamble meant to cheer one's spirits. Is it really that hard to directly state what you like/dislike about something without sounding like a complete tool? Forgive me, I continually battle the idea that guys are just that, and I continually use guys as an example because I think they did it to themselves. "Uh, honey, what's for dinner? Umm, is there something that is wrong?" Then when they tell you, the guys don't really understand what it's like or can't fathom the idea that she has like 75 emotions streaming through her at any one time. The woman should be surprised that they guy even noticed that something was amiss. Can you even imagine trying to justify comprehending 1/4 of that is a large feat, as a guy? This I've come to understand as... and I'll take baby steps... "I'll appreciate that you can handle all that, but don't direct that barrage at me - Please." Never the less, I think I stepped off on a little blip of reality, so, my point is... subtle variations meant to obscure your density make all the difference. Realizing the limits to your personality, or recognition of other people besides yourself,  is another key matter that I won't dive into today. However, just realizing that there is a pandemic of the "failing male intelligence" - SCARES the BEJEEZUS out of me. 

Complimenting someone on the way they look in a picture.

Historically, the picture was induced for the photographer, classic misconception is that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, but nevertheless, this common phrase, I think, is often misinterpreted. It should be, beauty is seen through the eyes of the beholder, "but kept in the heart of the photographer to see over and over again". But, seriously, complimenting someone just to compliment them is silly and nonsensical, and one could possibly appreciate a reason for your complimenting them. But without reason, negligence will take it's course, corrupting the thoughts of the dolt and vapid. Even so, this argument to my chagrin is also nonsensical and silly. Who am I to tell someone that they can't compliment someone that is actually worth it, even if it is "simple"? All I can do is shake my head and commit to laughing at them, and turning and walking away. Not to say that people don't like hearing, "Hey, you're hot..." or "Look at you - all cute and sexy"... and not to say that always indirectly directing the words to into a poetic movement is always correct, but I think that a good mesh between the two is an ideal start. I'm not sure if I'm feeling devalued or just think that guys, in general, don't use the intelligence that was afforded them, i.e. Always thinking that the simplest way to get into a woman's heart is always the best way and "simply" complimenting her to compliment her is just a waste of time. Nevertheless, it's neither here nor there, Guys don't understand things they aren't predisposed to acknowledge, and I'm just spouting off things that baffle most of them and wasting my time doing so.

Be that as it may, I see things completely and invariably awkward most of the time... I, either, make things appear more difficult in my head (for the challenge) or blatantly disregard thoughts of anything else except what I think is worth the time to think about. This is me, however, I rarely fail to recognize the advantages of complimenting someone's hard work and diligence, or beauty and self-worth, or character and charms. 

I would rather give a person a compliment - and show them the respect to think about it first. "Simply" because they deserve it.